Jane Austen Books, and, My Personal Views on Relationships

Every year or two, I go through my Jane Austen phase where I absolutely have to re-read Pride & Prejudice and one or two of her other books, except Northanger Abbey. Read that once. Haven’t been back to it.

Right now, I’m in the middle of Mansfield Park, and that will probably followed by either Persuasion or Emma. Decisions, decisions…

I’m not sure why I have a girl-crush on Jane Austen and her writing. I love history. I love her books. I love learning more about her. If I had to hazard a guess deep into my subconscious, it would probably have to do with the fact that money and practicality have as much to do with happiness as love does. Elizabeth only realizes her love for Darcy after she has seen his house. Although Anne has regrets about her decision, she originally turns down Wentworth because he is poor by her family’s standards.

Not necessarily related to Austen, but I think our current society has been too jaded with thoughts that passionate love must be present for happiness, without regard for anything else that may also be important for a lasting relationship.

My husband and I have been together 15 years (8 married). While we may not have that same butterfly-in-the-stomach feeling every time we see each other, we have a mutual respect and common goals that are much more important for lasting happiness. We’re both committed to our relationship and realize that a relationship means work and compromise.

In Austen’s time, relationships were for life. People that divorced or broke an engagement were ostracized. I think that many a teenager could benefit from these restrictions.

Too many people seem to think that the relationships should be easy. They never let their relationships evolve. They bail as the change begins to set in. I truly applaud those couples who work through it all and are married “forever.” My grandparents have been married over 65 years. I doubt many of those years were easy. But enough about my views on marriage, back to the topic at hand…

Aside from Austen, my reading tends to be historical fiction focusing on the Tudor-period, and YA books. Yes, I am among the vampire-lovers, but I’m more of an L.J. Smith-girl than a Stephenie Meyers-girl. My undead don’t glitter. Speaking of undead, I wonder what Austen would think of Pride & Prejudice & Zombies.


Author: Nessa

Librarian for people with visual and physical impairments, and mother of two sharp-witted alien children.

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